People Pleaser

People pleaser also another type of the symptoms of time abuser. You and me could easily fit in this group, understanding majority of us want to be helpful to be the one who try no to say"NO" to the people. However, saying "Yes" all the time doesnt make you to be a functional person, resulting in committing too much of time to some unproductive projects and taking more responsibilities out of a fear of confronting authority.

People pleaser develope this problem because of having difficulty interact with authority figures. Probably in their early environment, their feelings were not sufficiently valued. Just imagine Cinderella, who was force to clean house so her stepsister could go to ball, people pleasers are taught to leave their feeling aside for the good of others. Not only could grow up the feeling of being controlled but also evoke the feeling of rage.

When a person go extra mile, its normal for them to ask for recompense or recognition. However people pleasers seem humble and self-effacing, the truth is that like everyone else possibly more than others need public acclaim. If there is not recognition forthcoming, not only will the problem got worse, but they may even attempt to against the authority figure they feel have been controlling them.

For us to help,
As indicated that people pleaser often nurse deep anger. If you come across any cases, you could offer them some assertive training to learn beeter how to set limits and , ultimately how to handle his anger.
Moreover, they routinely accept work beyond the boundaries of their jobs, so if you should direct them back to what they are supposed to do by saying " I need you to be there" .
Finally when we trying to evaluate their work, it shouldnt be judging their performance rather then the type that helps you to determine whether they feels appreciated or not. As we knows, people pleaser engage so much extra work is that they get more recognitionfor doing somebody else's work than they get for doing their own. If you want them not to go to unreasonable lengths for praise, make sure you tell them they are far too valuable to your group.